People don’t usually have a phobia for heights, they are just scared of falling. There is this saying I heard somewhere, I can’t really remember where, but it says “you can’t fall if you stay on the ground”. This is the philosophy of most people who have loved and lost. They tend to believe and preach to those who care to listen that all “Love” would do is hurt you, hence the need to stay away.
However, there is also this saying that “it’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all”. Although, this saying is quite debatable, as there exists a huge number of people that would beg to differ, it is quite valid as experience is all we need to shape ourselves.
When love comes, it brings happiness, joy, laughter and all that cute stuff, but when it goes, it takes them away, and leaves behind souvenirs. These souvenirs tend to affect certain areas of our lives, such as our self esteem, ability to trust people and our faith in the world.
Thus, people who have loved and lost now suffer the side effect of love; they are paranoid, they read meaning to everything— delayed text, distraction from conversations and so on.
People who suffer from the side effect of love often self-sabotage, they start believing they’re not good enough and there is something wrong with them. People who suffer from the side effect of love have trust issues, basically, they are so many levels of fucked up.
But there is something interesting about them, they have a huge sense of humor, they smile a lot and they seem to be good at masking the pain. But if you look closely, you can see they are terrified of human contact, they flinch and run away from any sign of intimacy.
So, if you come in contact with someone like this, understand that in 2020, everyone has their own emotional baggage, and it will go a long way if you help them with it, and they, in turn, will help you with yours.
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