Don’t like what you see in the mirror? While most people are somewhat bothered by physical imperfections, those who suffer from body dysmorphic disorder spend hours a day obsessing over real or imagined flaws and take excessive and sometimes drastic measures to hide their perceived flaws from others
“When I see article after article about how important it is to love yourself and your body, it makes me feel like I’m not only failing at being thin but also failing at being the right kind of fat person.”
“Even though you’re chubby, you’re still beautiful,” a sweet older lady said to me after my performance as Dancing Girl No. 4 in Tacoma’s finest community theater production of Crazy for You. The woman said it with such heart, as if I needed to know how remarkable it was that I managed to perform the spectacular feat of being presentable while fat. I knew this lady didn’t mean anything cruel by her backhanded compliment, but the sad truth is, I agreed with her. I think I have a terrible body. I hated it then, I hate it now, and the truth is, I probably always will.
Society certainly sends us messages about how we are supposed to look. One study of girls as young as 5-8 years old found that “girls appear to already live in a culture in which peers and the media transmit the thin ideal in a way that negatively influences the development of body image and self-esteem.” These cultural messages can injure our self-esteem, but it’s what we do with these messages in our own minds that creates a cycle of self-shaming thoughts or even behaviors. It’s also this very pattern of thinking that we can challenge by taking on our critical inner voice.
It’s essential to perceive how our basic internal voice functions so as to get on to when it’s sneaking into our considerations and making our confidence dive. The basic inward voice will, in general, be activated at specific occasions or dependent on specific occasions. On the off chance that somebody turns away when we look, it might state, “You see? You’re not appealing. He/She won’t take a gander at you.” The voice may even spring up after we’ve gotten acknowledgment or drawn nearer to an objective. In the wake of being asked out on the town at the sea shore, for instance, we may hit the sack with our head loaded with musings like, “You can’t let him/her see you in a swimming outfit. You’ll embarrass yourself.” After an especially diligent work out, the voice may ring in, “This work, regardless you don’t look any better. You’ll never have the body you need.”
It’s imperative to get tightly to when your voice is sneaking in and what it’s letting you know. Consider the particular messages. What feelings do they work up? Do they help you to remember any occasion or individual from quite a while ago? Where may they may originate from initially?