When we say sexuality, there’s a great deal of ground to hide. Maybe one amongst the foremost basic topics is, however, we have a tendency to describe sex. For several individuals, the concept of getting sex connotes easy temperament versus the concept of creating love, that is, a lot of showing emotional connectedness and involves being infatuated together with your partner.
You may be nervous at the thought of learning how to have amazing, passionate sex with a man, but you shouldn’t be.
In this guide, I’m going to show you exactly how to make love to a man and please him in a way that is super easy and takes all the pressure off you.
More importantly, you will learn how to truly enjoy the experience of having mind-blowing, emotional sex, too.
In fact, if you follow these tips, you’re both about to learn what it’s like to have the best sex ever in your lives.
You’re not alone if you’re a woman who desires that connection via sex. The media argues that only women make this distinction, but there are many men who also see a clear distinction between having sex and what it means to make love. For many couples, achieving this level of connection is the ultimate goal in the bedroom. However, not everyone knows how to make love.
The following advice can help you learn how to make love to your man and set those experiences apart from sex you’ve had previously.
SET THE SCENE
Imagine any of the great love making scenes from Hollywood. More often than not, the lighting is dimmed, the doors are locked and a sensual or sexy song – like the ones in this list – is playing in the background. It doesn’t matter that many of those things are edited into the film after the initial filming.
Make sure your space is warm, clean and inviting. Change the sheets. Burn a scented candle. Clean up a little beforehand so that the scene you’re making would be fitting in a movie.
If you keep your bedroom a quiet sanctuary, this won’t be hard to do. On the other hand, it might be harder to do with little ones running around or roommates in the house. Consider hiring a babysitter or even renting a hotel room for the night when you want to make love. Many hotels offer romantic packages too!
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You need to feel comfortable first.
We’re not talking about the bed or couch here. The single most important thing that you need to take care of before having sex is making sure that you’re totally comfortable with what’s about to happen.
If you’ve never had sex before, then you will understandably be nervous and hopefully a little excited. Trust me, feeling comfortable with him is the only way you’ll feel safe enough to let go.
However, if you aren’t excited about making love or if you even have the smallest, niggling doubt, then hold off having sex with your man completely.
You should never, ever feel pressured into getting intimate.
While you may hope that he can just read the signs, you need to also verbally express how you feel.
So before you attempt to make love to a man, make sure that you’ve found one that actually cares about you and respects you. I know this part is not exactly the most exciting, but the other important aspect of being comfortable is being safe.
Whatever you do, don’t take any risks whatsoever. For most people, this also means making sure that your man wears a condom.
Understand that it’s not just sex — it’s a connection on a deeper level.
There is an absolutely massive difference between learning how to make love to a man and just “knockin’ boots”.
Making love is about getting closer to your man and connecting with him, both physically and mentally. When you are making love with someone, you can go fast or slow, but you will always be paying attention to them.
Hooking up with a guy for the sake of it is completely different. Casual sex is more about lust and orgasms.
In many ways, making love to a guy is a way to show him just how much you care about him. While it’s obviously a bonus if you have great orgasms, you are going to be just as focused with making sure that he has intense orgasms, too.
Now, it’s not necessarily easy or possible for you and your man to orgasm at the same time, but doing so will certainly make you feel like you’re making love as opposed to just having sex. There are a few steps you can take to make this easier.
So if you really want to learn how to make love to a guy and connect with him, don’t think so much about getting him to climax as quickly as possible. Think more along the lines of slow, passionate grinding, caressing and embracing.And remember that making love is not just about intercourse. There are a lot of other loving things you can do to your man, like massaging him, kissing him and even going down on him.
For starters, know how long it takes you to get off and what you need to do. If it typically takes you much longer to get to the point of no return than it does your man, starting with oral sex or manual stimulation might be necessary.
If you’re able to follow our advice to become multi orgasmic, you might be able to control when you cum to share the moment with your man. Additionally, consider edging, where you bring yourself just to the edge of orgasm but back off, to facilitate an explosive orgasm when you want it.
After you’ve orgasmed, remain connected through cuddling or talking. Laugh in bed. Perhaps take a nap. It’s difficult to feel as though you’ve just made love if one or both of you runs off to do other things!
Although making love is wonderful, it can be hard to sustain those feelings time after time. It’s important to bring new life into the bedroom and keep things fresh. Check out our archives about keeping your sex life fun. Remember that just because you bring toys into the bedroom doesn’t have to mean you’re no longer making love. It’s all how you go about it.
Furthermore, don’t think that there is any one way to make love. For some couples, making love looks a lot like a BDSM scene, complete with exchange of energy and emotions. Just like you can’t tell how love feels from the outside, it’s impossible for you to know whether a couple feels like they’re making love. Of course, sexy movie scenes look like love making, but they’re not. It’s all perspective.
Finally, keep in mind that you’re unlikely to achieve the sort of calculated perfection you see on your TV screen. These sort of expectations can lead to disappointment and even resentment. Real sex can be messy, silly, awkward, uncomfortable and more. But that shouldn’t take away from the experience you’ve having with the person you love.